desert_sailor (desert_sailor) wrote in booju_newju,
Inspired by watching this trainwreck unfold. You and your ex are (obviously) divorced but have both remarried and have families with the other spouse. Kind of nasty divorce, lots of drama. Your ex is keeping the young children (5 and 6 years old), who you guys have joint custody of, from you, moving around a lot, avoiding your calls, etc. You call and call and they finally answer! You ask to speak to the children but your ex starts saying inflammatory things to goad you into arguing with them. After repeatedly asking to speak with the children instead of fighting with your ex, they pull out this card: "I don't trust you to talk to my children. You raped me when we conceived the youngest child 5 years ago and aren't trustworthy to be their parent in my eyes." and then hangs up on you, only to have their new spouse call you to threaten you for what the ex has accused you of.

The ex has never mentioned anything concerning this before, has never even hinted at this being in their head before now. What do you do? Do you challenge them on this newfound untrue accusation? Do you give up contact with ex and children to save your new family and career? How do you deal with this new roadblock to your children and your seemingly unbalanced ex spouse?

ETA: Well guys, I didn't realize I was the anti-raped-women-ignorant-new-spouse and so increds wrong in this scenario. I probably should have known better to post an actual debate (no I wasn't looking for validation, I know my spouse is a douche for not contacting his kids and really, if I were looking for validation I'd just go to the stepmoms forum and whine) in a forum filled with die hard feminists, rape victims and shit-stirrers. Thank you however, to those people who played along and answered the actual "what would you do" debate. It was interesting to see what those of you who answered would do in this scenario.
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